Mr. Aardvark and I were filling out some paper work for the church, and he realized we have been dating over three years. "I can't believe we've dated so long! You'd think we'd be married by now!" he said. This caught me a bit by surprise. For one, I don't think three years is that long at all, and two, I thought I was the one who was antsy to get married! This lead to a great dissucssion about what is the standard amount of time to wait to get married.
I realized that there is no right or wrong amount of time. Mama Aardvark and Step-dad Aardvark were together for fifteen years before they made it legal. One of our good friend married her husband after abou six monthes of dating (although they'd know each other for years). And there are heaps of people that fall in between those two.
Even reading the boards here on the Bee, it is clear there is something of a bell curve, but no right or wrong amount of time to date before marriage.
With Mr. Aardvark and I, everything happened as it was supposed to. Looking back I thought he was going to propose Chirstmas of 2009. Turns out I was off by about a year and a half but I am SO glad we did not spend part of our LDR, engaged. It would have made me even more bonkers! (Koodos to you if you are keeping it together with a LDR fiance!) By the time we did get engaged, I was super ready to get married. A reletively short 10 month engagement was perfect. And now, with just about a month to go, I feel like everything is falling into place and happening the way it's supposed to (even if it's not the way we planned from the start.)
Now I'm curious, how long have you and your partner been together? How long is your engagement?
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